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The First Step of Faith

Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” (Martin Luther King, Jr.)

It’s been a quiet and lovely summer following a very busy spring of change renewal, and growth. Although all of life is dynamic and we are always “in transition” whether we acknowledge it or not, the last two seasons of change have been particularly affirming and good.

Although I once found myelf in the throes of defeat—a setback that cast darker shadows upon what I have worked hard for and some of the relationships I thought I’d cultivated—I found a place of calmness, confidence, and faith. I made the very best of a difficult situation and smoothly detached from the difficult positions I found myself in. Doors slammed shut and while windows were pried open or created, there was not enough room for me to pass through or enter in. Although it took years for a sizable door to open widely and warmly again, I am okay with that. The wait was worth it!

Looking back, I took stock and consulted the dearest people in my personal and professional life, quietly juggled the resources I had, and simplified my life so as not to compromise my values or waste the precious time I have in life. I did my best to honour the four basic human needs of personal power, freedom, fun, and belonging in a way that I think will allow me to look back with pride. After almost five decades of life, I am learning the faith that Martin Luther King refers to.

Although conscientious and disciplined when it comes to my spiritual and intellectual cultivation–the very things that will help me to create any opening doors or windows–I have chosen to “hold the space” and “slow down to go fast.” I am letting my life settle down to its own place for now as I let ever-expanding awareness and deeper understanding gently guide me on my path.

On this cool, cloudy day in mid July, fear, socialization, and obligation are not the motivators or guideposts they once were. I choose deep inner calmness, confidence, and faith whenever I can. This, of course, is my wish for all of you.

With love,


Kalen Marquis is the therapist, educator and human bean who founded Kwil.Club with frizzy-fuzzy, green-nosed Kwil. He is a registered clinical counsellor in private practice in New Westminster, BC. He has more than two decades of experience as a teacher, teacher-librarian and school counsellor.