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Becoming What We Desire

“Most of us are living with a narrow vision of what it is to be human. When we allow our humanity to embrace our universality, we can easily become whatever it is we desire.”(Debbie Ford)

This quotation reminds how easy it is for all of us to succumb to life-limiting beliefs which may be passed on through the most well-meaning adults and society in general. As parents and teachers doing the very best we can to prepare children and adolescents for the future, it is very easy to limit unknown possibilities and project our own past and present into their future. This, in addition, to a child’s own ability to learn, rebuff, and rebound from the knocks of life, determines so much.

I am excited for the future as I consider how important and liberating it is to help ourselves and our youth to become, as they say, a more integrated spiritual being in human form. Whatever one’s understanding or beliefs about life beyond the five senses, a conception of humanity that incorporates loving acceptance of human foibles and imperfections as well as the triumph and glory of a more inspired and well-lived life jazzes me greatly. We can become what we desire and we are probably closer to realizing potential than we might ever imagine.

With a much more wide open schedule this particular summer, I am going inward through my most deeply meditative and affirming writing process each morning. As always, it is a welcome opportunity to listen very carefully for what it is that I am meant to do and who I am meant to be with the rest of each day. To become even more attuned to the whisperings of my mind, heart, and soul while allowing opportunities to unfold in ways that no amount of struggle and sacrifice has yet achieved is one of life’s many paradoxes. In this, like all human experience, I am sure that I am not alone.

With love, as always,


Kalen Marquis is the therapist, educator and human bean who founded Kwil.Club with frizzy-fuzzy, green-nosed Kwil. He is a registered clinical counsellor in private practice in New Westminster, BC. He has more than two decades of experience as a teacher, teacher-librarian and school counsellor.