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Becoming Yourself

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. (Anna Quindlen)

It’s another hot, sunny day in July–the latest in a string of unusually warm days that make the cool confines of air-conditioned coffee shops so very delightful. I am here now, sipping coffee, just one week before turning the keys in the lock of my new live-work office space where I will continue to “keep my pencil moving” with my educational mascot Kwil,  and prepare to welcome individual counselling clients later this summer.

Without a doubt, I am peacefully and lovingly ecstatic for this very purpose-filled time and place in my life. I am so grateful for all who have supported and encouraged me through the decades and all that I have to share at this age and stage of life.

In addition to the honour of connecting and creating  with students, staff, and families in two delightful schools in neighbouring Burnaby, I will begin to counsel clients in the minimalist luxury of a brand new live-work office space in New Westminster. This increased capacity to continue creating and connecting with those who seek my particular brand of wisdom, wonder, and wellness services is quite literally a dream come true.

Although there is a part of me that has spent decades longing for things to come together in this now fortuitous and destined-seeming way, there is great solace and joy in going forward in a much more unabashedly human and humour-filled way. Although I will always be a serious, studious, striving, responsible, reflective, and perfectionist personality type who deliberately tempers this with mindfulness and mirth as situations allow, I am also more content and convinced than ever of the need to be myself.

Still perfectly imperfect after all these years, I know well the power and joy of choosing to be more authentic, genuine, and real.  As more fear-based pretense and artifice fall away, I know greater peace and contentment. I also contemplate a lofty logo and teasing tagline for my new private practice.

I am here to serve. As a therapist, educator, and human bean.

With love and laughs,



Kalen Marquis is the therapist, educator and human bean who founded Kwil.Club with frizzy-fuzzy, green-nosed Kwil. He is a registered clinical counsellor in private practice in New Westminster, BC. He has more than two decades of experience as a teacher, teacher-librarian and school counsellor.